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After reading the newspaper, news on the web, magazines, and so forth, I need to take
a breath and relax myself!
So much waste, so much dwelling on horrible incidents and potential disasters.
So right now, and I hope you join me, I am going to take in a few deep, mindful breaths.
As I do so, I am going to visualize all the trauma, all that which I CANNOT do anything about, leaving with my exhalation. This is not to “deny” problems, but to attend to
my own well-being. For if I am to do ANYTHING about ANYTHING, I must empower myself with positive thoughts and strong intellect.
In breathing my inhalation I think about drawing in fresh oxygen, getting it to my brain (which needs 50% more to think optimally), and regenerating my spirit and my body.
In breathing out I am letting negativity push out down my arms and through my fingertips, and I am releasing in order to think in more positive terms. That will enable me to “handle” what is happening in MY WORLD….and to touch, what I am able, in the world of others.
Respect yourself and honor your life.
Another few minutes of mindful breathing and I am up from the computer and out to accomplish a few things, and enjoy the moments of my life. I hope you do the same.
We’re alive and we certainly aren’t bored!
To all you guys who take this urgent and important job – CONGRATULATIONS : You are molding human beings who will someday be responsible for life changing, and world changing events!
YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB! Everyone gets impatient, tired, and makes mistakes!
We are all human, and this is the toughest job you will ever have in your life….and the most important!
GOOD on you and GOD on you! THANKS FOR STICKING TO IT!!!! Your reward is ENJOYING them as they grow, and seeing them in the future. Have a wonderful day!
…….take advantage of the moments you have in your life. Really, for all the planning and dreams, you are living your dream IF YOU MAKE IT SO! No matter what is happening, stressful or not, you are in charge of how you respond and the choices you make!
Yesterday I saw an unbelievable woman at the grocery store yesterday. As I started across the street to the store I saw an elderly woman who was totally bent with her face looking at the road. She couldn’t look a head nor to the sides. With cane in hand she began the long walk across the street.
I wanted to do something. Suddenly I felt protective of her and started walking slower. I wanted to see her safely to the store. I hesitated to ask if she needed help because she was okay and keeping her freedom in the ability to do it herself. Together, she slowly, and I quietly, made our way across the road.
She made it and I sighed a breath of relief. My immediate thoughts fast-forwarded to the moment and I realized how grateful I should be for what I have this moment. Fleeting they are.
Earlier I went to physical therapy for my wrist. It’s still very painful but yesterday I went several hours with little pain. 
When I came to a big mess of traffic and road construction I saw a little old lady, and I mean LITTLE and VERY OLD! She was so skinny and her white thick hair fell in curls to her shoulder. She rode right along with traffic then headed across the street to the construction area. There she enjoyed the downhill slope and her speed increased. She maneuvered and wiggled her way to a point of less traffic and no construction.
Again I sighed a breath of relief for her safety. It made me realize that even when we get very old we still have the choice of what we will do and the state of our minds. She needed to (or wanted to) ride that bike exactly where she was. She did it. If I’d seen her in a market I would NEVER have believed it.\
Take a lesson from these wise women who forge ahead no matter what the circumstance. We are young and healthy. Get to it, and smile and laugh often.
Cuddle today. A child, a grandma, a partner, anyone you can! It’s healing for you both. If you don’t have anyone to cuddle catch the hug I am sending via cyberspace, and hug yourself!
CREATE a wonderful day!
OVER 80% of medical visits originate from stress induced reactions upon the human body! Stress changes chemical combinations within us and drives us to the “fight or flight” stage, which in turn accelerates wear and tear on the organs, muscles and all the inner workings of the body. It also plays havoc with our minds, and can literally be debilitating!
This culture is the instant gratification culture. We want what we want, and we want it now! In learning to TRULY change your life, and MANAGE any stress, you must dedicate time to practice techniques, and be consistent. Does that sound so very difficult?
Herein lies the problem. This culture has us going so many directions at once, and believing the list of duties MUST be completed, that we are driving ourselves mad!
Each day has 1,440 minutes in it….that is 525,600 minutes in one average year. Ten
minutes a day devoted to stress management education and practice still leaves you
1,430 minutes a day….and 521,950 minutes a year to devote to all these other tasks you deem important enough to leave you frazzled, irritated, and less than feeling wonderful! Come on now, that doesn’t make sense.
Here is the choice: 1. Watch your stress levels keep rising with no resolve in sight. Prime your body for a heart attack and your life for constant turmoil. 2. Love yourself and your family enough to take 10 minutes a day to CHANGE YOUR LIFE and the lives of those around you.
I think the second choice is worth 10 minutes of consistent practice on managing stress. You WILL FIND YOU LIKE IT! You WILL FIND YOU WILL INCREASE YOUR practice time as you get “in the habit”. We are creatures of habit and we can develop habits easily. Why not a pittance in time to develop a life style that will enhance your mind and the health of your body simultaneously?
Whether you try my CD or someone else’s CD , in my heart of hearts I WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE BETTER FOR ALL CONCERNED! Of course I believe you should pay a one time fee for the CD and let me help you create new brain cells, and be rid of negative thoughts and actions. I charge much more than that for 1 hour of personal training. I personally selected the original music, and put 3 relaxations on the CD – for “newcomers” and for those familiar with it all. Over 30 years I have seen people change their demeanor to an empowered and calm personality – miracles can happen.
Please go to my new website to check it out. I have a couple of samples of the CD you can listen to, a couple of articles and my complete biography.
http://www.stressmanagementmagic.com or go to “links to my resources” on the right of this page.
My husband calls me “The human happy face” – I practice what I teach and I want this joy and empowerment to be YOURS! I TRULY CARE! FYI, I will only advertise on this blog according to my subject matter, and NOT often!
Though I know this blog is new, and I do appreciate the readers and comments – I am pondering whether it is worth the time for me to write it any longer. I have been a fitness trainer and counselor for 30 years and love to help people.
However, if only less than a handful read this – who am I helping? The wind? I am not
feeling negative or down about this. Just feel like time is of the essence and tonight I
am going to evaluate if the time I spend doing this (and writing my other blog) could actually be spent doing something that actually means something – such a volunteering, or maybe just taking the time to WALK or visit or be active in life. Sometimes I think
all the blog writing just separates people and is nothing REAL in one’s life except sitting in front of “the machine”.
My opinion, my expertise in health and fitness, my time – hmmmmmmmm. Guess I will
think and pray about it tonight. Have a wonderful evening. Make a priority list in your life. We have this moment. Now the next. And the next….it is fleeting.
OVER 80% of medical visits originate from stress induced reactions upon the human body! Stress changes chemical combinations within us and drives us to the “fight or flight” stage, which in turn accelerates wear and tear on the organs, muscles and all the inner workings of the body. It also plays havoc with our minds, and can literally be debilitating!
This culture is the instant gratification culture. We want what we want, and we want it now! In learning to TRULY change your life, and MANAGE any stress, you must dedicate time to practice techniques, and be consistent. Does that sound so very difficult?
Herein lies the problem. This culture has us going so many directions at once, and believing the list of duties MUST be completed, that we are driving ourselves mad!
Each day has 1,440 minutes in it….that is 525,600 minutes in one average year. Ten
minutes a day devoted to stress management education and practice still leaves you
1,430 minutes a day….and 521,950 minutes a year to devote to all these other tasks you deem important enough to leave you frazzled, irritated, and less than feeling wonderful! Come on now, that doesn’t make sense.
Here is the choice: 1. Watch your stress levels keep rising with no resolve in sight. Prime your body for a heart attack and your life for constant turmoil. 2. Love yourself and your family enough to take 10 minutes a day to CHANGE YOUR LIFE and the lives of those around you.
I think the second choice is worth 10 minutes of consistent practice on managing stress. You WILL FIND YOU LIKE IT! You WILL FIND YOU WILL INCREASE YOUR practice
time as you get “in the habit”. We are creatures of habit and we can develop habits easily. Why not a pittance in time to develop a life style that will enhance your mind and the health of your body simultaneously?
Whether you try my CD or someone else’s CD, in my heart of hearts I WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE BETTER FOR ALL CONCERNED! Of course I believe you should pay a one time fee for the CD and let me help you create new brain cells, and be rid of negative thoughts and actions. I charge much more than that for 1 hour of personal training. I personally selected the original music, and put 3 relaxations on the CD – for “newcomers” and for those familiar with it all. Over 30 years I have seen people change their demeanor to an empowered and calm personality – miracles can happen.
Please go to my new website to check it out. http://stressmanagementmagic.com OR
my other website: http://jett.net/~mo
My husband calls me “The human happy face” – I practice what I teach and I want this joy and empowerment to be YOURS! I TRULY CARE!
When you learn to deal with anger skillfully it can lead to LIBERATION. Life is relentless and demanding in nature. We are tested daily in patience, tolerance, generosity, and the use of our intelligence.
Each situation is unique and the wisdom to handle situations must be dug from deep within us to find a resolve. Each challenge we face can throw us into a rage. We become aggravated, enraged, and then derail our best intentions by contaminating all the good we seek to do initially.
We impose our own anxieties on others and our mode of interaction, with even our loved ones, we become torqued out of shape. We let our anger compound allowing the situation to spin further out of control. Many times we have unrealistic expectations of solving problems and that adds to the “life and death” struggle we have already placed in our hands.
These encounters with anger test our spiritual mettle as well. They escalate in a hair’s breath. One moment we are engaged in working on resolve, and the next we are ANGERED beyond even our own control.
There are people who are spending their life time in prison because their anger got the better of them. Relationships have been ruined, and children scarred because we haven’t learned to
use the gift of oxygen when a problem arises.
Do not indulge in this aggression. At the very moment you feel flushed and peaked to anger, take a breath! I am serious. When we are in pain we hold our breath. When we are angry we also have a tendency to hold our breath! The old “fight or flight” syndrome kicks into action.
The danger in NOT breathing is NOT making rational decisions! When our brains suffer from lack of oxygen, our intellect dwindles, insuring we won’t turn the scenario into a positive situation. You can be sure you will “retaliate” in some manner that just plainly screws things up even worse!
INITALLY to find that self control I repeat: Take a breath. Stop for 30 seconds and take a few breaths. In doing just this, your mind and body will relax a bit, you will lower your blood pressure, and your intellect will be established fully again.
Use your oxygen to think more effectively on how you will handle any state of anger you find yourself feeling. Empower yourself with your secret weapon – your oxygen! It is your first line of defense against negative anger. It will put you in control of your bodily responses and possibly keep you from making a dreadful mistake.
If this sounds just too easy, it is! What is a bit more difficult is to get into the habit of doing
this. We habitually get angry and defensive. We make rash and sometimes terrible decisions.
ANGER IS TOTALLY DAMAGING TO OUR PHYSICAL WELLBEING! It can
cause nervous breakdowns, heart attacks, and more……protect yourself by empowering yourself with your own defense: Use your oxygen!
REMEMBER: if you find yourself getting angry take 30 seconds and use your oxygen. YOU will be the one in the situation who makes the better decisions and actually is visibly more together. Anyone can loose control. It takes an intelligent person, one who actually cares about doing the right thing, to work towards trashing the out of control anger. The only thing loosing your cool does is make you look like a fool and throw your body and mind into a terrible state.
Keep your cool and act the wiser individual? OR loose your cool and look the fool? You pick.
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